Attitude is everything in life. It�s a state of your mind at which impossible is nothing. Your mind releases abundance of energy and strength in your body to achieve anything that you desire.
Having a right attitude is not an easy task. Many people spend years gaining the right attitude. They end up reading self help material and attend seminars, it works for them for the first few months and then they are back to where they started from. Why does this happen? Reasons are many, personal and psychological. I would like to touch base on the psychological reasons.
Psychological reasons why attitude training does not work
1. Recent Failure
For some failure is the end of road and for some it�s a new beginning, it�s how you look at failure. When things go wrong, we start to blame ourselves and other people. That is why we lose our positive attitude. If we start to think that the failure was for our good and may be the forces of universe wanted us to learn an essential lesson before achieving success, then we are thinking from a positive frame of mind.
2. Loss of Focus
This happens to many people. We aim for something and then we lose focus. Could be that we have something else that is interesting to achieve or we don�t find our goals interesting any more. Therefore, if we don�t find anything interesting to achieve, no matter how hard we try using our positive attitude, we aren�t going anywhere.
3. Procrastination
This is the number one killer of positive attitude. The more you procrastinate, higher the risk of losing your self-esteem. With low self-esteem it is not possible to set a positive attitude. Take up a diary and jot down all the tasks that you have to do and allocate sufficient time for it to be done and remember to always plan your week instead of just the day.
Above were the psychological reasons why our positive attitude training fails. We are all humans and in recent times with pressure from our clients, bosses and home we have an urgent need to perform and achieve. Only a right and positive attitude can help you to achieve your goals and desires. Having a positive attitude not only helps you grow, but also helps you emit positive energy thus making you more likable.
Following are some tips to help you achieve positive attitude:
1. Always have presence of mind
Having presence of mind always helps you know how you feel as you can actively know the thoughts that come to you. People who don�t always remain mentally present get into the mode where negative thoughts start occurring and they get deeply immersed into it. With presence of mind a person can know when such negative thoughts occur and can take actions to over power it.
Always remaining in presence of mind is not an easy task. It is difficult; but achievable. You can achieve this by way of meditation.
2. Think and be Positive
To think positive, you must speak positive. Speaking negatively has a chain reaction on your mind. Try to stay away from negative people. The more you stay with them; chances are that you will be like them. If you have a desire to score good marks or get through a MBA college, associate with friends who have a similar goal and positive attitude. Never associate with people who will tell you how difficult it is. Therefore to remain positive, try to look for surroundings that nurture positive behavior.
3. Affirmation
In the words of Stephen Covey (Author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People), a good affirmation has five basic ingredients: it�s personal, it�s positive, it�s present tense, it�s visual and it�s emotional.
Writing affirmations and reading them over and over again, will help you achieve positive attitude. Some examples of positive affirmations are:
1. Every day in every way I am better and better.
2. I am now awakening the genius within me.
3. I have a perfectly healthy body and mind.
4. Visualize Success
Visualize your success. I haven�t enjoyed any feeling as much as I have enjoyed the feeling of visualizing being successful. If you desire to buy a good car, a house or wish to get selected for a job, start with preparing for your goal and follow your preparation with visualization. Visualize your goal in every detail as possible. If you wish to buy a car, then visualize yourself driving the car. Visualize every single detail; visualize the dash board, the interiors, the speed, the music system, etc. If you desire to get selected for a job, visualize that your interview has been successful, visualize you getting the offer letter, being introduced in the organization, etc.
5. Meditation:Meditation helps you in many ways to embrace positive attitude. If not only helps you calm your body and soul, but also releases substances and chemicals within your body which make you feel happy. By making it a habit to meditate you start remaining happy. My experience shows that negative thoughts cannot invade a happy mind.
6. Always smile and be happy
No matter what the circumstances you must always be happy and keep smiling. I know you have a question of �How can a person always be happy and keep smiling?�. The answer is very simple. Whatever happens is for your own good and God along knows why He did what He did. If you keep this in mind, then nothing can take away your happiness. If you leave everything onto Him and only concentrate on doing hard work, you will start to accept anything that comes your way (success or failure). If you accept everything that God gives you, you will always remain happy. This concept is a little difficult to digest initially, but this was an advice once given by an elderly mentor which has changed my life completely. Only concentrate on hard work in the right direction. The result will always follow. So don�t worry, be happy� and don�t forget to smile.
Quotes on Attitude
"Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other one thing."
Abraham Lincoln
"Work is either fun or drudgery. It depends on your attitude. I like fun."
Colleen C. Barrett
"The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen."
Frank Lloyd Wright
"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us."
Helen Keller
"If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can't, you're right."
Henry Ford
"Opportunity is missed by most because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work."
Thomas Alva Edison
"I'm a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it."
Thomas Jefferson
"The greatest discovery of our generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind. As you think, so shall you be."
William James
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